TEENAGE DATING CHALLENGES

Teenagers have had a variety of challenges this past year. Some have had to deal with the tragic loss of their loved one. Some are dealing with the struggles of adjusting to the demands of a completely new school system. There is also the challenge of dealing with the demands of dating life. Teenagers have a unique challenge in that they are still maturing physically and emotionally and are also still seeking their identities. They are still forming their beliefs and attitudes.

For most teenagers there are few real boundaries to their social world. They spend much of their time talking with friends via the phone. The computer has helped them to connect with all sorts of people, old and new. And the computers have come to replace the school days at times. And some teenagers are using the internet to find someone. In the early years teens used to shyly seek a soul mate. Now they can literally find someone nearby using a few keystrokes.

Dating challenges are similar to challenges in the workplace or in higher education. Human relation skills, kindness, politeness, even listening are all important in dating situations, especially when the nervousness and uncertainty due to inexperience is factored in.

This past year has seen teenagers become far more sophisticated when it comes to dating. They understand that they do not need to wait for someone to notice them. If they have something to say, they will say it. Sometimes it can be quite surprising to walk into a room and see a group of teenagers clustered around a computer talking in real time.

There is no shortage of teenagers using the internet. There are far more teenagers than when I first started. And the sheer diversity of lifestyles and interests means that there are far more profiles to find.

This means there is also more opportunity to meet a wide variety of people. There are also far more ways of getting to know someone. And there is a far more equal opportunity for someone to make a decision about being bothered.

Now it seems that almost everyone wants to find someone. There are many different ways of doing this. Some just want to make sure they have a common interest before contacting someone. Some just want to find someone to have fun with. And there are those who simply want to satisfy curiosity. All of these want to meet someone interesting.

The great majority of teenage girls and boys want to find someone to date. The web has made that easier than it has ever been before. Now there are sites that specialize in helping this happen. Many of them are free. And the web has also made it easier for anyone to be quick with someone. Just take your time and get to know them.

If you feel you don't know anyone then just take some time and contact them. Use the sites to introduce yourself to a few people. Then when you feel you know someone you can send them a message. Remember the rules are still to get to know someone. And just because you have asked them to meet you does not mean they will agree.

And finally remember the rules are still to get to know someone. It's very easy for them to say no. If they don't want to meet you do not use that as an excuse to go away. If they don't want to go then there is no reason for you to go either. This will result in a much harder situation. But if they accept then there is a good chance they will also like you.

So remember these are only the basics. And the best advice is to take the time. It will take time to find someone. It's just the way it works. But there is plenty of time to find someone. Just remember the rules are still to get to know someone. And to get to know them.